So much of being a writer is weathering rejection. We often hear the advice, “You need to develop a thick skin to survive in this business.”
This is partially true. We can’t let every no beat us down or we’ll spend all of our time getting back up instead of moving forward.
But those rejections do hurt. The more often you experience, the easier it becomes. It’s taken me over ten years to reach the point I can say this honestly.
However, I still don’t like them. I don’t think there’s a writer out there who does. If you do, please share in the comments!
There are a few valuable things rejections teach us. They make us examine why we’re doing what we’re doing. When I feel beat up by the no’s, I have to remind myself why I want to be writer.
It’s not for the fame. Of all the truly awesome writers out there, how many are famous? Not many.
It’s not for the money. Most authors still keep their day jobs or spouses who help supplement their incomes.
I write because I’m passionate about my stories. I have a message God has put on my heart. I write because I don’t feel whole when I stop. I write because God created me to be a writer.
So when you’re faced with a rejection, no matter what step of the publishing ladder you’re on, remember your passion for writing.
When you feel like giving up, ask yourself these questions:
* Why did I start writing in the first place?
* What kept me typing my first story before I even thought about sending it out?
* What message do I want my words to convey?
Write them down on a card, so the next time you receive a rejection letter or a pass on your work you can pull it out to remind yourself. And then start writing your next masterpiece.
Also, feel free to check out these rejections by other writers. Knowing that other writers really are going through the same thing can be helpful.