Perspective

Life came to a standstill, in an instant.
Or did it?

Life moved into slow motion.
Or did it?

Or is this when God escalated life and what living really means?

Or is this when I finally understood what “chasing after the wind”
sings to us in the Book of Ecclesiastes? (Do we really listen and hear what it says?)

It is true life as we knew it stopped on December 3, 2011.
Our daughter walked into an airplane propeller, by accident, and almost died.
Because of this tragedy, we are reminded, once again, of the things that really matter in this life. It again reminds us to think from an eternal perspective instead of our shallow temporal point of view.

I’ve tried to sit back these last 5 months and ferociously attempt to gather my thoughts. There are so many, at times, that my mind wanders aimlessly, and I find myself frustrated trying to capture it all.

How could this have happened? Why did this happen? Were we ready spiritually for such a time as this? Was she? How did we function when we had no idea if our daughter would live or die?

But God continues to calm my spirit  and remind me of eternity. He reminds me that He is Father and of all the good things He has given me.

  • The warmth of my husband’s embrace
  • The relationship I have with my daughters
  • A good night’s rest
  • The Power of the Bible
  • Warm comfy blankets and puffy pillows
  • The comfort of prayer
  • The taste of a good cup of coffee
  • The depth of our friendships
  • The depth of love
  • The real definition of patience
  • What family is really about
  • The blessings of our favorite breakfast spot

So I beg to ask the questions:

Does it have to take a tragedy for us to never take life for granted?
Does it take being forced into a situation to truly trust our King Jesus and live our lives for Him, rather than ourselves?

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About Jeff & Cheryl Scruggs

Cheryl is an author, speaker, counselor. She lives in Dallas, Texas with her husband Jeff. Their twin adult daughters, Lauren and Brittany and her husband, also reside there. She and her husband's writings include the well-known book “I Do Again,” her blog http://www.hopeformarriages.com/blog/, and most recently her blog regarding their daughter, Lauren's, recent accident: http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/laurenscruggs/journal. The Scruggs founded Hope Matters Marriage Ministries in 2001. They are intimately familiar with a marriage focused on the principles of the world, the sting, heartbreak and pain from a divorce, and the deep rooted hope and joy of a fully restored marriage centered on God. It is this unique perspective and experience that they obediently share in counseling and with audiences nationwide.

11 thoughts on “Perspective

  1. Thank you, Cheryl, for this beautiful reminder to live life to the fullest. Hugs to all of you.

  2. I had a special interest in this post since my husband is a private pilot so followed your link, Cheryl and watched the news clips. God has shown himself faithful to your family. May He continue to bless you.

  3. Cheryl, in response to your questions, for me it did take a time of severe trial to bring me more securely into the Savior’s arms. Family tragedy moved me away from a faith that consisted largely of reliance on myself and into a real and deep faith that depended on him alone. I was one of the many people praying for your daughter and your family from afar, having experienced catastrophe with my own children. I prayed a mother’s prayers for your girl.

  4. Your closing questions remind me of a saying by a friend of mine, “Faith that hasn’t been tested is just theory.”

    I often add that the same is true of love.

    Neither faith nor love can truly become all it should be until it has been tried by fire.

    God has given you and your family a tremendous testimony. I am one of many strangers who has been praying for you, during this extremely difficult time.

    Blessings on you and yours!

  5. I think it does take tragedy, near-tragedy, or suffering periodically in our lives to bring us back into proper perspective. Human nature.

  6. Miss Cheryl, I, reckon these times bring us to the end of ourselves so that nothing stands between us and God — all the fluff is blown away and it’s just us and Him. And all those tears that He collects.

    Recently a friend asked how he could be ready to deal with the sad/bad/scary stuff that life tosses his way and someone else in the group told him that God doesn’t dole out the grace beforehand, He gives it as needed. Thank you for sharing your family’s story and for posing the questions. I had not heard it of your daughter’s accident, but I followed the news video link.

    May the Lord continue to bless you and yours as you glorify Him in all that you do.

  7. I watched this story unfold as soon as a friend told me about it a day after the accident. As a pilot this has been a concern of mine.

    Those are good questions. I believe as others have said Grace is given as needed. I am a fan of I am Second. It was through this that I learned of your story and was blessed by your lifting up the name of Jesus on national TV. So many have heard your authentic story if marriage renewed and living through a horrific accident that would never listen to someone having it made. May God richly bless you in your marriage and walk as you follow Jesus.

    Blessings to you and your family. Thanks do much including us in your journey. You have been an encouragement to me. Thanks!

    In the Grip of His Grace
    Brent Johnson

  8. I’m so sorry that you have had this happen. I hope she is recovering well and will not be permanently affected by this tragedy. Luckily you have faith and perseverance. It has – and should continue to – served you well.

  9. It seems we notice our blessings most when things are really rough or really good. It’s the in between times when I tend to take things for granted. And sadly that accounts for the most significant portion of time. Will be praying for your daughter’s recovery. I cannot imagine what you went through.

  10. Where would we be without Him?! Thank you for sharing and may you continue to show His grace and strength in your (revised) daily life.

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